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Raising a Home Full of Boys Over a Frat House

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I wasn’t a regular at the Frat Houses during my days at Butler University, but the times I did step inside of them I was hit with the smell of urine and beer.  Not the most luring or pleasing smell to a 20 something girl, and somehow I haven’t acquired an appreciation for either smell in my 30′s.  Although my house is full of boys, I’m determined to not live in a Frat House.  We DO boy in this house.  There are games of soccer in my living/family room, there is plenty of boy humor, and rowdy, BUT I don’t want my boys to leave our home with no regard to order, cleanliness, and an appreciation of the work that is involved in maintaining a home.

Over Christmas break I chatted with some close friends and family members of how involved their kids are in the home upkeep, and I realized our boys could and should do more. I wasn’t sure how to implement it, and I dreaded the enforcement, but I can say now a month in that it was so worth it.

Prior to our new system there were things the boys were expected to do on their own (but with frequent reminders): pick up toys/messes, clean up breakfast, put away shoes/coats/backpacks, and help with home responsibilities when asked.  Sometimes they would volunteer to help out on their own or for a reward, but most things landed on my overwhelming to-do list.

Starting at the beginning of January we began a color week system that rotates weekly.

For instance a Yellow Week means:

  • Henry – Laundry Helper
  • Brooks – Dust/Trash Collection
  • Clark – Bathrooms
  • Isaac – Vacuum Downstairs Floors

The next week everyone gets a new job, so you don’t get stuck with your least favorite thing very often.

There’s a quarter reward system. So they begin with a certain number of quarters for the week which can be deducted for poor attitude, not completing their job, or not doing their “regular” responsibilities.

Now, do they need our tips and guidance still? Sure.

Is it perfect? Nope.

Is it taking some of the load off of me? Absolutely!

 Is it teaching them responsibility and to be better workers? I really think so.

One thing that has changed our home in having our boys more involved in the cleaning routines has been our discovery of Thieves Household Cleaner.  It cleans, disinfects, and it’s non-toxic made with 100% plant based material. Before I wouldn’t have let them touch our toilet cleaners, surface sprays, etc. This cleaner alone has replaced all of my previous cleaners (toilet cleaner, kitchen spray, glass cleaner, stainless steel cleaner, produce spray, and more)! A cleaner that you can use both as a toilet cleaner AND a fruit and veggie wash is about as versitile as it gets, people!  AND it’s saved us soooooo much money!  This 14 ounce concentrate can make 30 Dollar Store spray bottles of cleaner – so you are talking about an entire bottle of cleaner for under a $1!

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Thieves cleaner is one of my absolute FAVORITE Young Living Products, so for the rest of this month (January) if you sign up for a Premium Starter Kit, I’m gifting you with a 14 oz concentrate to get you started as well!  

The diffuser ALONE does miraculous things for Boy Odors. I’ll take relaxing spa smell over dirty laundry/toilet/sweaty head any day of the week.  Love you Boys. I really do.

So BUY THIS (11 oils, the diffuser, + samples/materials for $150)

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And GET THIS as a Bonus! (A $29 retail value!) 

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Just consider it my “Say No to Frat House” Gift!  Your welcome. 

****Please let me know if you make the Premium Starter Kit plunge in the comments so I can get this out to you pronto!*****

How about YOUR house?  Do you do a chore chart?  Allowances?  How’s it working out for your family?

 

 

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Summer Epilogue

Oh Summer, we sent you out in style.

The finale included introducing the boys to Trail 3 at Turkey Run State Park, a backyard wiffle ball game of Parents vs. Kids with the neighbors, Kit-Kat S’mores, and one final swim in the neighborhood pool.

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The Summer of 2014 was certainly one for the books – full of memories, healing, milestones, and adventures and we’re sad to say goodbye.

But we look back with fuller hearts and wider smiles than when we started and we’re just plain grateful.

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Trips Are Not Always As They Appear on Facebook…

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So if I shared you the following pictures on my Facebook page, you might think, “Wow. What a fun camping trip. Look at those boys always getting along. That’s just lovely.”

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And that’s how it was {MOST} of the time.  There were hotdogs around the fire, fun games of ladder ball, fishing, and playing in the sand. But what didn’t I take pictures of?

My meltdown after not sleeping, feeling dirty, tired of peeing with scary bugs and used feminine products, and just wanting my own bed. 

The boys having a rough night staying in the camper for bedtime and not being able to comply. 

A most likely rash decision to pack up when we were frustrated with camping at 10:30 at night in the dark. 

Boys both crying and cheering that we were going home.

A broken wheel well that we didn’t realize until we went to move the camper.

Brad pulling off the tire in the middle of the camp sight driveway at 11:30, and all of us praying in the van that he would be able to fix it.

Rolling in at 1:30 in the morning and crawling into our beds exhausted and wondering if we’re really cut out for camping. 

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Oh Friends, vacations, trips, and lives are not always as it appears on your Facebook feed for any of us. Trust me, you didn’t want to see pictures of the bathhouse on your screens. We often don’t see the mess and the meltdowns, only the highlights. Let’s not forget that there’s a behind the scenes that we arenotl intimately involved in day in and day out. We all struggle, we forget, we clean up messes, we fall down, we get hurt, we mess up – and then we get up and do it all over again. Hopefully at the end of the day the good outweighs the bad and we wake up with amnesia of yesterday’s imperfections.

The problem lies when we start comparing our low-light reels to everyone else’s highlight reels. 

Let’s embrace the goodness of this life we’ve been given and how 4tunate we truly are today.  Let’s be good with our highlights and be able to chuckle at some of unphotoshopped moments. There are gifts to be found even in the not so picturesque moments – don’t let comparison steal the joys of what you’ve been entrusted. 

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