By: Jennifer Murray

How Life Has Changed Since Becoming a School Mom {Or Not}

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We are into our 4th week of school and one of the biggest adjustments of our lives, and Brad and I are still pinching ourselves over how well smoothly it’s running.  No tears, no complaints, no reluctance – is this just honeymoon newbie school phase still? 

People keep stopping to ask me what I’m doing with ALL my “free time”. 

I have to hold back my chuckle, because I think they are picturing me laying out by the pool, magazine in hand, dosing off, and aimlessly waiting until it’s time to go line up in the car pick-up line. It’s as if all of my responsibilities vanished with the school enrollment.

Not. So. Much.

So what looks the same and what looks different?  Here’s a little of what I’ve experienced these past few weeks…

  • There is a measure of quiet that I haven’t experienced in 7 years. It’s eerie but refreshing at the same time. 
  • I still cannot get on top of my laundry. I do laundry {nearly} daily and just never get caught up.  I’ve resigned to it being my lot in life.
  • I’ve packed 72 lunches so far.  So glad I have a cheat-sheet when I’m all out of ideas.
  • We’re up and at ’em much earlier.  Out the door by 7:50 is getting us to bed earlier and the morning routine has been a good change rather than a dreaded one so far.
  • I’ve had several lunch dates/business meetings with Brad.  I’m thankful for the opportunity to be more involved with his business and I’m so excited for his newly launched Whirl Sites. They’ve knocked it out of the park with this one!  Check it out and pass it along to those you might know who need an affordable web solution with most of the advantages of a custom-built site!
  • I still cannot stock my pantry and fridge with enough food. The dudes are always hungry.
  • I’ve been able to dedicate more time to my Young Living biz.  It’s growing like wildfire, y’all.  So thankful for not only the paycheck that is an absolute bonus and provision, but for the opportunity to invest in others and help them find answers for all sorts of health issues from the minor to the major. People who I’ve introduced to essential oils are off allergy meds, migraine meds, sleeping better, getting relief from anxiety, and boosting their family’s immunity.  I’m just floored that I get to have a small part in it!
  • Life has been less survival mode, and more doggie paddling over sinking.
  •  I’ve been able to pursue relationships better, something that I have lacked balance in the last few years.
  •  I still haven’t “caught up”.  My closets need cleaned out, my house needs dusted, my fridge needs cleaned, etc.  I thought the cleaning fairy would come over to keep me company, but she’s a no-show.
  • I’m not all put together. I feel accomplished when we all get to school with 4 backpacks, 4 lunches, 4 signed assignment notebooks, and 4 homework folders in the van and into the school parking lot on time. Perfect hair, makeup, and fashion to go with this circus just aren’t realistic or a priority.
  • I’ve learned the lesson of not buying shoes at a box store.  New brand name shoes ripping apart in 2 weeks is not acceptable in this mom’s book.
  •  I actually LOVE the car pick up line.  Don’t throw anything at your computer. No really, put down that coffee mug you are starting to chuck.  I know it’s newbie school mom love, but it’s a time that no one is demanding anything from me that I can guiltlessly check Facebook or read a few pages on my Kindle that survived the bathtub swimming session!
  • Time still flies.  I mean honestly, how is it 3:30 soooooo fast? I thought the days would be long, but turns out they fly by just as quickly.
  • I miss them. It’s not a emptiness/sadness/loss feeling like I anticipated, but it’s still bizarre  having hours without them when I’ve been with them since their exit from the NICU.

All that said I think we’re adjusting and finding a new rhythm.  It’s certainly not perfect and there are things we miss about our homeschool lifestyle, but overall it’s been a really good fit for all of us.  Thanks for supporting us and cheering us on as we continue to figure out what’s best for our boys. 

9 Responses to “How Life Has Changed Since Becoming a School Mom {Or Not}”

  1. Mel
    September 4, 2014 at 5:02 pm #

    I read all the time but rarely comment…I am so glad to hear that it’s going well for you guys.

    • Jennifer Murray
      September 4, 2014 at 5:09 pm #

      It’s so good to hear from you, Mel. Thanks for your kind words.

  2. Alana Topper
    September 4, 2014 at 11:15 pm #

    Thank you so much for sharing. I only have two boys but this year was the first year they were both in school and I relate very much to the words you wrote. Especially the silence that the house now has. It’s weird and I thought I would like it but I don’t. I ran up the stairs yesterday to the playroom just to tell my youngest I love him only to find the room empty. This is their first full week of school so I’m still trying to get a routine hashed out. I’m not sure what to do with myself….I don’t really remember much else besides being a wife/mom. People do ask constantly what I will do with all my “time” and like you said time is flying so I’m sure eventually I’ll get it figured out. I just hope I do it before they are both in college.

  3. Diana
    September 5, 2014 at 9:25 am #

    I was home schooled and always thought I would do the same. We my oldest decided school was for her it was a mental readjustment for me, but the change has been a good one. And neither fixed everything or ruin anything. ..just a different way of live life. Refreshing post, thank you!

  4. Grandma Murray
    September 5, 2014 at 11:25 am #

    This is so great to hear. I was afraid the change would be difficult. I prayed and hoped the change would go well so it would be easier for the two of you. Being a former teacher I knew kids who had great parents like you. They were success stories because they had the support of mom and dad. That is how I knew the boys would do well. My prayers were answered when it has become a blessing for you too. Love you all. Have a great weekend.

  5. Barbara Manatee
    September 6, 2014 at 2:58 am #

    So great to hear! Our routine is a bit different this year, too. For the first time in 7+ years, I don’t have to drop off or pick up from daycare! All 3 are in school!! My youngest is LOVING kindergarten – he’s loving riding the bus, getting to do what his siblings do and being a part of it all! A new job for me, too, this year but its off to a great start!

    Hope your year continues to be great!
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  6. Robbie
    September 7, 2014 at 3:24 am #

    Hey! I have been a reader for awhile, but I haven’t ever commented before. I love this post! I used to work at a school, and I worked in the car line. Let’s just say I don’t miss it 🙂 I totally get what you mean about loving it- I am now a nanny and back in school myself, so I feel like the car line is the only time I have to read my book, or check facebook or make a phone call. I also feel you about the laundry. I am not ever caught up on mine, and I am single girl, not married, no kids.

    Can’t wait to read your next post 🙂

  7. Crystal
    September 7, 2014 at 6:20 am #

    Glad to hear everything is going well! I can’t imagine not having a child with me at all times. Will it ever actually happen?
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  8. Meggin
    September 9, 2014 at 6:11 pm #

    I do not think you’re crazy! I also love the car line, as well as when Sarah has her 30 minute speech therapy each week. There aren’t any dirty clothes, dishes, or house staring at me making me feel guilty. 🙂

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