Post by Brad Murray
Have you ever been completely embarrassed by your children’s behavior in public or in a setting with family or friends?
No? I’m convinced you are either lying or don’t yet have children.
Before I say more on this topic, our kids are very well behaved in public generally. We have received numerous compliments while at restaurants and other public venues, and for that I am very thankful. However, there are those rare times when everything falls apart.
Before we had children, I was that guy that scoffed at parents whose children were rebellious in public. I would find myself thinking, “my kids will NEVER act that way.” In general, I do not tolerate open rebellion from my kids, but I have learned that they sin just like their daddy, and it sometimes does not come out at the most opportune times.
Sometimes our kids embarrass us in other ways as well. They might innocently repeat something that was never intended for the outside world. They might fail to perform at a sport or performance as we know they are able. How we respond to all of these moments is HUGE for our kids, did you ever think of that?
We have a two kids who will remain unnamed that have struggled with serious separation anxiety issues over the summer. At seven years old, this is very embarrassing as a dad. It made us question, Why us? What are we doing wrong? What is wrong with him? There are many things to explore in finding solutions to this problem, but more importantly, they need to know I am FOR THEM no matter what.
Our kids our very perceptive of our attitudes towards them. I say I love them and I tell them how much they can trust me, but do my actions back that up? Do I get more angry at their disobedience in public or when it affects me? The answer is yes at times, and I want to see this change. The more they trust us and know they can count on us, the easier we make it for them to obey us.
It’s a lesson for us in humility and self-control, and a valuable teaching opportunity for their character.
Today is a new day, let us give our children every opportunity to please their Lord.
Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.