By: Jennifer Murray

The Road to Becoming a Work at Home Dad {Part 1}

{The last 3 1/2 years have come with some bumps and bruises in this road from unemployment to entrepreneur. We thought we had learned our lessons in trusting the Lord through the birth of our quadruplet sons, but God has showed us just how incapable we are of doing anything on our own, and has revealed an even greater need to rely on Him through the storms and the calm. 

It’s been on Brad’s heart to share some of this journey with you all, and so for the next few Monday’s we’ll continue this series in hopes that our story and struggles could be an encouragement in your lives }

52 card pickup 

When you were a child, do you remember the first time one of your friends or siblings asked you if you wanted to play 52 card pickup?  You had never heard of this game, and out of your ignorance you gleefully said “yes”!  In the next moment you saw a blizzard of cards falling from the ceiling in mass chaos.The cards settled in a catastrophic mess all around you… and a few moments later, a mischievous smile crossed your “friends” face as they say, “now pick them up!”

Three years ago God played 52 card pickup with our lives…again.  He had a great plan to reshape our lives completely starting with quadruplet boys, we just didn’t know it wasn’t over yet.   Our sense of security, financial stability, daily routine, marriage roles, vision of the future, and priorities were all thrown high into the air on that fall day. 

In September of 2009, after 6 years at Woolpert, the only company I had ever worked for since college full-time laid off 2 more employees.  For months on end, they had cut 2-5 employees at a time.  There were about 25 people in our department when it began, and by late summer, our number had been reduced to 7.  Some really great people had already been sent home jobless, and I was grateful to still be employed.

I thought I had survived the layoffs that started at the beginning of the year.  We had enough work to keep us busy with our reduced numbers, and I allowed myself to relax.  Jen and I even bought airline tickets as we planned a trip to Disney World to celebrate her 30th birthday.  It was nice to see life getting back to normal.

On September 30th I left work early to go home and help Jen get the boys ready to go to grandma’s house, and pack for our trip.  Shortly after I got home I noticed an email in my inbox which announced that my friend, Steve, had been let go.  This was a shocking surprise, after I felt like we were already down to a skeleton crew.  I wanted to ignore the email and get on that plane to Florida the following morning to enjoy a long weekend with my bride.

But I couldn’t do it, I told Jen I had to drive back to work and confirm my job was secure…

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Continue to Part 2…

12 Responses to “The Road to Becoming a Work at Home Dad {Part 1}”

  1. Melissa D
    February 11, 2013 at 12:20 pm #

    I’m looking forward to the rest of this series! My husband was laid off at the beginning of January and we’re desperately seeking God’s next steps for our family.

    • QuatroMama
      February 11, 2013 at 2:12 pm #

      Melissa, I will certainly be praying for you during this trial! God will shine His faithfulness through this time!

  2. Anne Schrader
    February 11, 2013 at 12:38 pm #

    Boy, can we relate to this! We were in the same position in 2009. My husband had been at his job for 10 years and suddenly was “downsized” and unemployed. It was a rough year, but now looking back, we are so much better off. He is back to making what he was making before, but now he is closer to home and we pay less for insurance. Amazing how God works things out for our own betterment… I sure couldn’t see that 4 years ago, though!!

    • QuatroMama
      February 11, 2013 at 2:13 pm #

      So thankful to hear how God used this in your lives as well, Anne! I couldn’t have imagined it being for the best either!!!

  3. Erica Mueller
    February 11, 2013 at 1:33 pm #

    I am so looking forward to this series. The way you two work together inspires me and I feel like I have so much to learn from you both when it comes to working from home and supporting my husband!
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    • QuatroMama
      February 11, 2013 at 2:14 pm #

      Oh Erica, you are an inspiration to me as well! So glad to have you along for the ride!

  4. Lisa~
    February 11, 2013 at 9:37 pm #

    I am so glad you are writing this! I can’t wait to read the rest! Lisa~
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    • QuatroMama
      February 13, 2013 at 10:02 am #

      Good to hear! Honored that you’re reading…

  5. Lene Kristin
    February 12, 2013 at 8:54 am #

    My husband just received a similar message… but his spirits are high, so I try to keep a lid on my insecurities as much as I can. Happy you made it through, hopefull we will, too.

    • QuatroMama
      February 13, 2013 at 10:02 am #

      It’s a roller coaster ride of emotions, but stand firm to knowing that God will be faithful and surround you with His love and grace! Will be praying for you during this hopefully short trial.

  6. Crystal
    February 12, 2013 at 5:43 pm #

    Did Brad happen to get my Facebook message from a few weeks ago about a possible website?
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    • QuatroMama
      February 13, 2013 at 10:00 am #

      Yes, I’m so sorry for the delay. He just found it this week in his messages and will get with you shortly! Hope you’re having a great week!

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