By: Jennifer Murray

Because a A Life is a Life No Matter How Small…

Today marks what would have been #5′s first birthday. A day that could have been filled with messy cake hands, squeals of delight, playing with boxes, and a crowded room singing “Happy Birthday”.

But it was not to be.

Brad and I talked a little about it today for the first time in a while. Our hearts have mended, but the scar remains.

We talked about how good of big brothers these boys could have been and how we still miss that life that we were given for such a short while.

It simply just isn’t something you get over or learn to forget. In fact, I don’t want to. I’m glad that it still hurts. I’m thankful for the pain. I’m thankful that tears still come to my eyes quickly when I think about it.

Because that shows that their precious life mattered. 

I know my tears are not isolated.  There are so so many of us who have had to say goodbye before we’ve said hello.  These babies were made for heaven. Their lives spared the decay of this world – rescued from pain, hurt, sorrow, greed, envy, deceit, corruption, and evil.

Yet we mourn and we wish it didn’t have to be so, because sometimes the days seem long that we have to wait to be reunited. And sometimes the questions swallow up our spirit. And sometimes grief comes uninvited.

But even this shows proof of your existence.  A small life that impacted us forever and never forgotten. 

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By: Jennifer Murray

The Dog Days of Summer

We’re fully enjoying the Dog Days of Summer the last few weeks. What’s the BEST way to enjoy the benefits of a dog without the full-time responsibility? Have awesome dog-neighbors and family!

Currently we’re all falling hard for this Mini-Golden Doodle puppy, Jada. We’re watching her just for today while our neighbors are out. She’s on a 3 hour rotation similar to what our newborns were on when they came home from the hospital, but she makes you absolutely MELT. We have a bad case of Puppy Love.

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And then there’s our next door doggie, Bugsy, who we get to take on walks occasionally and visit with – she’s just an all-around happy dog!

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We also just finished reading Shiloh aloud, which added to our dog days. It’s a really great read if you’re looking for a good family read-aloud.

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And then there’s our favorite pup, Macy, who we’ve shared on here before. This dog is the easiest dog to take care of and has pushed us to the dog-owner edge a few times.

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If only they didn’t do their whole doggy-doo-doo thing! Dog-Gone-It! For now we’ll leaving the full-time scooping to our dog owning peeps.

How about YOU ALL?  Are you dog owners? What do you have? What made YOU decide it was time for your family? Any regrets? 

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By: Jennifer Murray

Why You Should Runaway With Your Husband

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Hello, Lovlies. How’s your summer shaping up?  Are you getting some time in to soak it up and kick back a little? I sure hope so!

I absolutely LOVE summer. It’s my favorite season by far. I love the warmth, having the boys home, all the fun get-togethers, being outdoors, and pretty much everything single dag-gone-thing about it. Perhaps it’s because when you survive Indiana winters summer is all the more glorious.

Another thing I adore about summer? My in-laws take the boys for 4 nights.  I owe them forever. Not only is it a break for us from the parenting duties, it’s time that Brad and I can spend together without the constant distractions. Adorable and sweet as they may be, it’s an intense life and sometimes that starts to take a toll on our relationship.

Most summers we’ve just worked and had evenings together, but this summer we were intentional about taking some time AWAY. We needed the time to unwind, have some QUIET, and to just have fun!

We didn’t go far, didn’t spend much, and it was just 2 nights, but it was SPLENDID.

We hiked. We talked (uninterrupted). We had devotions on our cute little front porch in our adirondack chairs. We sat and watched the water. We ate at places that we didn’t research the Kid’s Menu and prices first. We talked about what was going well for our family and where we needed to put more work in.

It was a RETREAT.

I’ve been a huge cheerleader of dating your spouse and finding cheap ways to make that happen, but running away with them is even better. Brad and I hadn’t been away together since my birthday in 2013, and it was overdue for us. We know this isn’t the season for us that we can spend much time away from our boys. And honestly, it’s hard to leave them, even at this age, but we knew this was good for ALL of us. And they see that too.

Marriage is a life-long  investment. It’s not just a bond you don’t continue to contribute to for years at a time, or something you wait on to appreciate. The value is in what you both put into it.

Spending a night away from our kids puts a priority on our marriage and allows us to focus on what’s keeping us together. Our marriage is definitely a work in progress, but we’re in it together and we’re committed to holding it at a high level.

If you can get 24 hours ALONE with your spouse, I highly highly recommend making it happen. It takes some planning and sacrifice – and maybe even some childcare begging, but it’s so worth your efforts.  Put aside the guilt of being away for just one day, and make the commitment to your marriage.

You’ll come back refreshed, renewed, and restored.

And without regrets. 

 

*If you’re in the Indiana area and looking for a less than 3 hour away getaway, we fell in LOVE with this inn in New Buffalo, Michigan. Just don’t request it during our week “off” next summer because we can’t wait to go back. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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